AM I ASKING TOO MUCH TOO SOON?
Let me start out by telling you that I'm not one of those people who instantly becomes obsessed with someone when they begin dating them. But, I will say that I'm often impatient. I sort of just want to know right from the start where they see the relationship going. I've been dating someone for 6 weeks, we see each other pretty much every weekend, usually Friday night, but I can't tell if he's really into me or not. In the past I think I've come on too strong and pushed people away because I wanted a commitment too quickly and I don't want to do that this time. It's hard for me not to though. When has it been long enough for me to bring up wanting to know where things are going? Even when we hang out on the weekends he waits until like the night before to ask me, so I end up leaving my Friday nights open, because I think he will ask, but he hasn't a few times and then I'm bored. I feel like a lot of the time I'm just sort of waiting for him to contact me, which I don’t want to do but I don't know how to stop either.
It makes sense that you'd feel like you're waiting on him to contact you because it sounds like you literally are waiting for him to. It's only been 6 weeks and you're still getting to know each other. I'm curious to know why you want to know right from the start where the relationship is going. One thing you don't mention is where YOU think the relationship is going, or where you want it to go. It sounds almost like you just want him to commit to you right away, but you're not even sure why. I don't think there is a correct amount of time to wait before bringing up where you think something is or is not going.
When you're just beginning to date someone, it's really important that you give that person enough space to see who they are. Allow that person to pursue you, or not pursue you. But don't force it or try to nail down a commitment too quickly. It's unlikely that after 6 weeks either of you know that the other is someone you want to be with long term. Often people rush past the beginning stages and are very focused on the "we're together" part, but I'd suggest taking your time. One way you can take some control back and not feel like you're waiting all the time is to make plans, with other people. Don't wait around until the night before and see if he's going to ask you out. Either ask him out yourself or make other plans with friends. If you stop waiting around for him to text or ask you out, won't feel like you're waiting, because you won't be waiting. Your life shouldn't entirely change when you start dating someone, so don’t let it. At 6 weeks, if you haven't had a discussion about the future, you should still be living your life exactly how you would if you weren't seeing that person. Stop waiting around and live your life, if he wants to join in and be a part of your life, he will.
Just relax and try not to focus on the future so early on. Enjoy getting to know the person and let him be himself. That's the only way you're going to see who he really is and decide if who he is happens to be someone you want to be with long term.