DO WE HAVE TO BANG IN THE SHOWER?
I've been dating the same person for about 6 months and everything has been great, aside from one thing. The only time he really only wants to have sex is in the morning, in the shower. We've done this a few times, and I've survived, but I NEVER enjoy it. Oral sex is the worst, I also feel like I'm going to drown because of the water. I've asked him to stand on the opposite side of the shower head so that there isn't so much water, but then he complains he gets cold without it on him. When it comes to anal sex, the water is even worse because it washes away the lube and attempting to have anal sex without lube is terrible. Also, I always feel like I'm going to slip and fall, which I've done before and It was super embarrassing. Staying hard in the shower and cumming is always extra difficult too, I think because of the heat and water. I'm not sure what that is about, but it just feels like there is too much going on and I don't enjoy the sex at all. What can I do to make my boyfriend want to stop banging in the shower?
Shower sex is absolutely one of those things that just doesn't live up to what we see in TV and the movies. However, a lot of people still really like it. Why? I have no idea and actually agree with everything you've mentioned above. But, that doesn't really solve your problem. The issue here is that your boyfriend is into something that you really have no interest in. Sometimes this happens with sex in relationships. The first question you need to answer is can you do this anyway? If you absolutely cannot ever have sex in the shower, then you need to tell him that. This might mean you break up; it depends on how important it is to him. Is it something you can handle sometimes, but not all the time? For a relationship to work there has to be some give and take. Can you negotiate with him so that both of you are having your needs met?
If you've decided, "fine, I can handle it sometimes, but not all the time," there are a few things you can do to help. Lube is a big deal and water can make it difficult. I'd recommend a silicone based lube, the water won't rinse it away. You mentioned oral sex, which is difficult in the shower too. You absolutely need a soft mat for the floor, this should be a no brainer. But, also make sure the mat has some texture to avoid falling (again). If you're having a difficult time staying hard and cumming in the shower, then make sure he knows that after he cums in the shower, he's going to have to help you outside of the shower. I'm guessing that he isn't having the same difficulties with maintaining an erection and cumming in the shower, because if he were he probably wouldn't want to be doing it.
Be safe, sex in slippery places can be dangerous!