HE WON'T LET ME TOUCH HIS FEET...
Ever since I was a kid I've had a kink for all things foot related. In the past, I've had troubles with boyfriends not really getting into it, but I've still been able to make it work. It has been easy to get a boyfriend to let me rub his feet, but I inevitably get rock hard every time and then I want to do more, like kiss, lick, and tickle them. So, that's sort of the problem now. My current boyfriend doesn't like it when I touch his feet at all and it's driving me crazy. I've tried to talk to him about it, but it doesn't seem to help. I tried reassuring him that I don't want anything done to mine, as I've had boyfriends in the past think they were going to have to do it back, but he just won't budge on it. I asked him why and he said that he just doesn't like it. I don’t know what to do. Do you have any thoughts on what might make him come around?
Not everyone is going to be into the same things sexually, and it seems like you know that. From what you've said, it sounds like your boyfriend may just not be into this and there are really only a few things you can do. 1. Accept that he's not into it and be ok with that. 2. Accept that he's not into it and not be ok with that. Dan Savage often talks about the "price of admission" and you have to ask yourself if not being able to touch his feet is the "price of admission" you're willing to pay to be in this relationship. However, there are other things you might be able to do. First, does he know how much this means to you? Have you expressed to him how much it turns you on? It's possible that he might be more into it if he knew what it did for you, and the same could be said for something he may want to do that you're not initially into. Second, if he's not into it and won't "budge", but wants to be with you, is he willing to let you get this thrill from someone else? If so, what would that look like and what would and wouldn't be appropriate? Third, if this is something that you feel you MUST have and you'd rather leave the relationship than not have it, then maybe it's best you let the relationship go. It's hard to hear, but if your needs aren't being met sexually and the other person isn't willing to work with you on both meeting each other's needs, then the relationship simply isn't working.
A few things you don't mention are how long you've been dating this person, how serious the relationship is, and how your sex life is otherwise. If this relationship is new, it's entirely possible that somethings he's not ok with right now he may be ok with in the future. Of course, that doesn't guarantee it. And how is your sex life outside of foot play? I understand your main concern is that this kink you love isn't being met, but how frequently do you think you need it? Is it once every six months, once a month, once a week, or every day? It's also possible that he's concerned if he allows you do this once then it's going to be expected all the time. I'd suggest you lay it all out on the table. Tell him directly what you like about it, what it might include, and what your expectations are. Listen to what he has to say about it, there are likely some very real concerns he has beyond simply not liking it. But, if he just doesn't like it and doesn't want to do it, you have to accept that and plan your next move.
Best of luck!